We are all, everyone, always, without exception, no matter what - choosing happiness. Nobody chooses unhappiness. The so called "self-destruction" "disorders" "conditions" "issues" - are fierce undertakings towards happiness, and not away from it.
This is true about perfectionism, anxiety, self-doubt, rage, grief, hopelessness, despair, resentment, numbness, aggression, depression, addiction, self-harm, eating disorders, loneliness ...... these experiences are NOT evidence of defectiveness, poor character, or deprived worth.
Will power is not the answer. Nobody is FORCED into Wellbeing.
The unpleasant experiences of today are the solutions of past experiences. If it felt awful, it was awful. There is absolutely nothing wrong with you, nothing has gone wrong, in fact you are a brilliant person who has resourced yourself in the most appropriate ways!
By itself know to you today as emotional pain and problems, your inner life is calling for healing. There is pain to be released, inner world to be reclaimed, and a true you to be freed up into this world.
Rachel (BA Psych, MSW) is a psychotherapist and spiritual coach, specializing in healing emotional wounds (often called anxiety and depression!) for your authentic, fulfilling, and happy living.
